New Year Resolutions, for People Who Hate Them

By Robert Gerrish | December 22, 2008

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Look, I don’t want to burden you with a whole load of stuff just as you’re about to take a bit of a break, so I’ll keep this simple.

Whether you love or hate New Year resolutions (put me down for the latter by the way), there’s no denying this is a good time to think about what you’d like to change for next year.

There’s nothing quite like closing your doors for a short while knowing that you’ve created a brighter picture for the future. It’s like closing the fridge, knowing your yummiest, healthiest food is inside waiting for you whenever you’re ready.

Here then are my five business nutrients. Eat as much or as little as you want. We’ll make sandwiches out of the leftovers:

1. Surround yourself with the finest

Wow! Imagine a business where everyone is totally cool at what they do. Is this possible? Sure is. You just need to think about it and resolve (there’s that word) to make it happen. Few get to the top by putting up with second best.

2. Eliminate the stuff that bugs you

Yep, that old chestnut. Tell yourself you’re not going to take it any more. Better still tell someone else, as accountability is powerful. Plan a way to change. Look for solutions. If things don’t change, they stay the same.

3. Develop the workstyle you want

Sometimes we lose sight of what we want, choosing instead to go with the flow. Maintaining our workstyle can appear out of our control.

In my coaching I regularly talk to people who have, in effect, forgone their ideal workstyle in the pursuit of business.

“How did I get here?” is the common cry from those whose businesses are effectively run by their clients. Conforming is ok as long as you’re happy. If you’re not enjoying it, resolve to change. Whose business is this anyway?

4. Put yourself first

Putting yourself first does not mean ignoring the needs of others, rather making sure you do not ignore your own needs and wants.

I’m talking about ensuring you establish boundaries — boundaries that allow you to do your best and be your best.

Top Tip: Boundaries only work when others know they are there. You’ve got to tell ‘em.

5. Become a supermodel

And finally, if you’d like the world of business to be beautiful, you must model being beautiful yourself. We cannot complain about poor service, low business integrity or anything such things until we do it 100% right ourselves.

Here’s to a 2009 that’s as good as it can possibly be.

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RE: New Year Resolutions, for People Who Hate Them
In my view the only thing that's not right with New Year's resolutions is the fact we're only supposed to do them once a year (and usually when slightly intoxicated from champagne). Once a year? In this fast-changing world? No wonder so many people don't like them.

My aim is to make as many resolutions as possible and I'm not limiting myself to just January 1st. You can choose to improve your life or your business throughout the year, with small steps or huge leaps.

Now, I'm not entirely unbiased here, being one of three guys that developed http://www.pledgehammer.com on our free time. It's a week-old site that helps you keep your promises as well as helps charities raise more money via donations. Check it out and see it it works for you.
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AndrusP
12/24/2008 03:26 AM
RE: New Year Resolutions, for People Who Hate Them
Why do most people hate New Years Resolutions? I think it's because they are trying to correct something they feel guilty about--smoking too much, not enough time spent with spouse, etc. Below are my tips for keeping a resolution.
* Write it down. Writing something automatically creates a stronger bond to it.
* Under the resolution list all the benefits to you for keeping it. Make it attractive to yourself (you are your own customer).
* Keep the resolution and the benefits posted.
* Put a recurring weekly or monthly reminder on your electronic calendar that shows the resolution with all its benefits.
* If you are close to keeping the resolution when you see the recurring reminder, reward yourself.
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John Boneck
12/24/2008 07:59 AM

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